One of the biggest side-effects of traditional educational systems is that they train your brain to categorize everything into right and wrong territory.
Well the real world doesn’t work like that. Nothing is black and white… there are a zillion shades of grey in between. What makes perfect sense for someone else might look dumb or ridiculous to you (and vice-versa).
You want to transform your relationship with your husband or wife or boss? Or mend a broken relationship with an old friend or relative? TAKE UP THE RESPONSIBILITY of seeing the world from their point of view and act accordingly.
And then see things change. They will. They have to.