“IT’S A HOPELESS SITUATION. I can never transform my relationship with my father.”, said a client to me yesterday.
Sometimes it’s not father, sometimes it’s a spouse, a boss or a sibling.
Sometimes it’s a career gone wonky.
Or a disastrous personal finance situation.
“IT IS IMPOSSIBLE. I CAN’T DO IT.”

I hear this all the time.
Multiple times a day.
6 days a week.
I often tell them the story of the hummingbird.

A hummingbird’s wings beat up to eighty times per second. They can rotate in a complete circle, allowing it to hover in mid-air, fly forwards, backwards, up, down, sideways and even upside-down.
The laws of physics say it should be impossible for the hummingbird to fly.
Clearly nobody told the hummingbird.

“The problem is that the world is always telling you what is possible and what is not possible for you.
The problem is that YOU are always telling YOURSELF what is possible and what is not possible.
The problem is that you forget that you are way more extraordinary than any bird on this planet.

And you make up stories.
The bigger problem is that you believe your own stories.
Come on, you have the power to do the impossible.”, I tell them.
“I’ll help you see what you cannot see. There are so many things you are blind to. Your blind spots have crippled you.
Just be open. Just be coachable. Will you?”
YES.. they say.. and half the battle is won.