In recent times I’ve been studying the emotion of anger extensively, partly through my own experiences and partly through stuff I’ve been reading. Here are a few key things I’ve learned about anger. 1) Like any other emotion, anger is an emotion that can be controlled. It is normal to feel anger, but to continue…

Monday is a bad day of the week because we say Monday is a bad day of the week. There is no intrinsic reality in it. Our reality gets created through our language. In reality there are no bad days of the week. There are only days of the week we can deal with well…

A few weeks back my 80 year old mother asked me whether there’s a book I could give her to read. I gave her my favourite book “Follow your Heart” by Andrew Matthews. She finished reading it and said “It’s a good mirror to show us how we live our lives!” My mom is Marathi…

Last week my daughter Arista passed her Grade 10 IGCSE board exams and got 5 straight A’s. What was amazing was the ease and grace with which she got her success. Here are a few things we can all learn from Arista’s success irrespective of what age and life context we are in. 1) To…

Met two of my close clients from Mumbai, Prasanna and Archana today.. they had dropped in to Pune. When I first coached them in 2018 they were based in Riyadh. I had subsequently coached their son Atharva who was working in New York then. I have coached many couples/ family members in my coaching career,…

Started my Monday with an intense 5:45am call. The lady I was coaching is recently divorced and is struggling to find a partner who can fill the companionship void. “I’m tired of dating guys Milind. Whoever I’ve met so far, they’re no good. Why does my mind crave for a companion? Why can’t I just…

I am feeling so good about my weight loss journey today that I want to put down some tips that worked for me. (I’ve lost 26 kgs over the years and I’ve maintained it. See my before after pic in the About page). Here we go: 1. BE CLEAR WHY YOU WANT TO LOSE WEIGHT…

Today I paid the 2nd term school fees of my daughter Arista – Rs 56000. I was extremely happy writing the cheque and giving it to the school office. But till a few years back my relationship with money was very different. I was very happy RECEIVING money but used to be very sad GIVING…

Sunday 6:49am. I was leaving from home to drop Arista for a nature walk organized by her school. ME: “Arista, your mom told me you’re a bit stressed today. What’s the problem? Tell me. Maybe I can help.” ARISTA: “It’s the 6th and 8th graders Pappa. They’re going to join us 7th graders for the…

You see a husband who’s irresponsible, but that’s YOUR VIEW, that’s not who he is. You see a wife who’s stubborn, but that’s YOUR VIEW, that’s not who she is. You see a boss who’s partial, a neighbour who’s a pest, a friend who’s not trustworthy, a parent who is dominating.. BUT THAT IS YOUR…

1) What you have today, you may not have tomorrow. Take nothing for granted. Especially your freedom. Sudden change is an integral part of life. (THREE days back my 250+ flats apartment complex was a safe zone with zero cases throughout 2020. As of one hour back it is a micro containment zone.) 2) The…

You are not the perfect child. You are not the perfect spouse. You are not the perfect sibling. You are not the perfect parent. You are not the perfect friend. And you are definitely not the perfect professional. You are getting stressed because you are trying to be perfect. Your mother says, “You’re not taking…

If you agree with this quote, I win you. If you disagree with it – you win, I lose. I still win you. To me that’s all that matters. #ilosetowin #BeABaazigar

When you lose 27 kgs in a year everyone wants to know HOW you did it. So here’s the secret: 1) Before thinking about losing your weight, work on losing your EGO. There is not enough space in life for a fat ego and a slim body. Dropping your ego means LOVING PEOPLE. Especially the…

A housewife (Taapsee Pannu) gets slapped by her husband. Husband says (without a hint of an apology), “Shit happens yaar. It shouldn’t have happened.. par ab ho gaya na?” Mother-in-Law (Tanvi Azmi) tells her, “Thoda bardaasht karna seekhna chahiye auraton ko”. Mother (Ratna Pathak Shah) is extremely upset that Taapsee is considering divorce, “Yehi din…

WHEN will peace prevail on this beautiful blue-green planet? When we as a human race learn the biggest life lessons of them all.. When we acknowledge that for us to be right, someone else does not automatically have to be wrong.. When we become aware that this Universe works on the principle of abundance and…

“Today was a Difficult Day,” said Pooh. There was a pause. “Do you want to talk about it?” asked Piglet. “No,” said Pooh after a bit. “No, I don’t think I do.” “That’s okay,” said Piglet, and he came and sat beside his friend. “What are you doing?” asked Pooh. “Nothing, really,” said Piglet. “Only,…

“IT’S A HOPELESS SITUATION. I can never transform my relationship with my father.”, said a client to me yesterday. Sometimes it’s not father, sometimes it’s a spouse, a boss or a sibling. Sometimes it’s a career gone wonky. Or a disastrous personal finance situation. “IT IS IMPOSSIBLE. I CAN’T DO IT.” I hear this all…

I have always seen marriage as a 50 year game. Pretty much like a 50 over cricket match. Here are some things Seema and me have learned about marriage over the last 22 years. (explained in cricket terminology!) 1) The first few overs don’t define a 50 over game. You can bounce back from the…

FEELING ANXIOUS? – Take a deep breath LOST YOUR JOB? – Find another one CAN’T GET A JOB? – Hire yourself DON’T HAVE MONEY TO START ON YOUR OWN? – Borrow from someone CAN’T THINK OF IDEAS? – Think of a problem you can solve DON’T HAVE MOTIVATION? – Look at your bank balance NEED…

In 2009 I quit a corporate job because I wanted to be FREE. 11 years later I can say that I have understood what freedom really is. And what it isn’t. FREEDOM is not merely having lots of money in your bank account. Or lots of time on hand. Although both matter like hell! FREEDOM…

NOT TOO LONG AGO, about 3 years back to be specific I used to label my son Arjun as a LAZY, IRRESPONSIBLE BUM. Today I see him as a HIGHLY RESPONSIBLE, COMMITTED young man. But in these 3 years it is not Arjun who has gone from being lazy to being committed, from being irresponsible…

For years together I used to get affected by a virus called negativity. Its various forms included complaining, being irresponsible, having a chalta hai attitude, playing victim, living in fear, worrying about being judged by people etc. Then I vaccinated myself with some super powerful vaccines. They include living in the present, gratitude, loving people…

My biggest financial mistake: I thought I could be wealthy by earning big money. I didn’t realize that you get wealthy not by HOW MUCH you earn, but by how much you KEEP from what you earn. Do the math: In 27 years of career.. Rs 2 crores income, Rs 2 crores expenses.. how much…

Have I tried to pay my RENT with a HUG? YOU BET I DID! 11 years ago on 3rd Feb 2009 I got LAID OFF from my job as Vice President- Business Development, Sales and Marketing of a Real Estate Company in Chennai.. right in the middle of the world’s worst recession. I had Rs…

1) BE PATIENT. Building a relationship is like growing and nurturing a plant. If you plant a seed and water it, the next day all you will have is a wet seed. Eventually the seed will grow. First the roots will get strong, then the plant will visibly grow above the surface. The same thing…

Just spent 1.5 hours speaking to someone trying to convince him why he should NOT hire me as his life coach. This has become a once a month pattern now. You see I’ve coached a lot of doctors and psychiatrists myself and I remember their advice, “Milind, DO NOT – whatever happens, DO NOT coach…

“Thank you for being there for me”, he told me, as we said bye to each other. It was an emotional moment for both of us as I had met this client for the first time face to face after 26 sessions (I started coaching him in Jan 2021). He had travelled from Luxembourg to…

A summary of what I spoke when I addressed Rotary Club yesterday. It was ultra powerful and wanted to share that power with you. 

It’s been an interesting last 30 days for Arista. Last month on her birthday she switched schools. Thanks to the alternative education format we opted for her very early on, she’s never had any tests/ exams till now. This is her first year (and first month) of exams. Here are some of the results and…

Love and Fear are the two primary human emotions. And so I’ve always been a student of how these two work. Here are a few things I’ve learnt over the years: 1) Love and judgement cannot co-exist. If you really love someone there is zero judgement; you’re not hung up with whether they’re right or…

There is no bad luck and there is no good luck. It’s just an event and we have no clue what it will actually lead us to in the future. There is no bad news and there is no good news. It’s just news. And news is news. Something happened. And you have to deal…

I think X about you. But you think that I think Y about you. But I don’t know that you think that I think Y about you. And you don’t know that I think X about you. But the real you is Z which I don’t know. So it’s obvious that I’ll find your behaviour…

This is a beautiful world. Everyone is a good person. There is an abundance of opportunity on this planet to make a difference. Making money is a piece of cake. Right now everything is perfect the way it is and the way it is not. Everything is happening for my greater good. This is a…

I’ve heard this so many times in the last few years, “Even I can become a Life Coach. After all it’s all about giving gyan to people.” Let me tell you, yes, ANYBODY can become a Life Coach provided you are willing to put in the effort. THE EFFORT: 1) You have to experience life….

I had parked our Ertiga in a lane in Pune yesterday when this happened. I returned to our car and found a clamp on our front wheel. A towing van with a lady police constable in it was nearby. I asked the van operator who had a swipe machine ready in his hand, “What’s the…

My message to all the wonderful women in my life.. ???? In whatever role you are doing in life – a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother, a mother-in-law… you are doing your best. Sometimes people may tell you otherwise. Sometimes you yourself may feel otherwise. Ignore such people (me included). Ignore the negative…

I was speaking to a client who was feeling low and in a state of confusion yesterday. “If I accept this job offer with a 30% increment then it will be great but I will miss out on all the extra time I get in my current job, because the new job will be very…

“I don’t want to go for the farm visit today Pappa, I only want to go for the one on 23rd Feb,” Arista told me just now. ME: “That’s ok, that’s what I’ve told your class teacher and it’s not compulsory anyway.” ARISTA: “But WHAT IF my teacher is not ok with me not coming…

Seema and me did the Andharban forest trek (6.5 hours of climbing down a valley) last weekend and me being me still fired up from that trek, have declared to go even bigger in the coming years. Our friend Sumana was already nudging me to do the Everest Base Camp (EBC) trek with her in…

Uncertainty in and of itself is not a problem. The problem is our attitude, our resistance towards uncertainty. Embrace uncertainty as an inseparable part of living and life will be a blissfully enjoyable experience!

“JUST DO IT Milind.. commit to the K2S trek in March”, urged my friend Sumana last night. I was unsure. I’ve been unsure for a year now whether I can handle such a tough trek. But the last time Sumana and me committed to something, we landed up in the Himalayas (Spiti Valley 2019). But…

8 years ago on this day (24th November) at age 42, I completed my Life Coaching certification. (They taught me how to coach.. how life works I had to learn on my own.. that diploma I will get when I die!) At that time all I had other than this certificate, was support from family…

Paragraph One I walk down the street. There is an open sink hole I didn’t notice. I fall in. I am hurt. I am helpless. It isn’t my fault. I cry and complain. It takes a lifetime to come out. Paragraph Two I walk down the street. There is an open sink hole I didn’t…

“She didn’t wish me on my birthday.” So what? “He’s always getting upset over small small things.” Samajh le yaar. “She never calls my mom.” Don’t take it personally man, that relationship is a work in progress. “He takes no responsibility for household work. I have to do everything.” You cannot force responsibility on him….

1) Love is when your wife throws your clothes out of the house because you used the wrong utenstil to make Maggi but you still say sorry to her because you know it’s not her, it’s the hormonal imbalances because of her postnatal depression. 2) Love is when your husband binge drinks every night but…

LADY ON THE PHONE: “Sir, we are calling from Bajaj Finance and we have a very good scheme for you…” ME (interrupting): “Madam, I am really sorry to interrupt you. I understand you have my best interests in mind and I know you are only doing your job and you want to sell me your…

I have TWO intentions of writing this post: 1) To help you heal your relationship with your spouse/ your parents/ your children/ your boss.. anyone who matters to you.. anyone you love. 2) To make my fish Chiku immortal (an assignment a client of mine gave me yesterday!) I got Chiku (breedname Cichlids) into my…

I was recently interviewed by Podcaster Rupesh Nahar in his podcast – The Midlife Station. During the show I shared with him the journey of my life so far, my struggles, the challenges I faced, how I overcame them and what it takes to deal with a midlife crisis. Tune in to the full episode…

Effective coaching is as much about a committed coachee as much it is about a committed coach. And not everyone is coachable. At times even I am not. A coachable person is one who is open, willing to change. Someone who is patient and understands that transformation will not happen in just 2 to 3…

Most of us are too hard on ourselves. We underestimate what we’re capable of achieving. Whenever I feel something is IMPOSSIBLE, I look at my own past achievements, however small or big they may be. The career challenges I overcame, the relationships I transformed, the financial difficulties I worked around, the addictions I got rid…

LIFE is not meant to be a guessing game. There is one thing we have that animals don’t.. and that’s the power of communication.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ People often wonder why I am so openly expressive about who I love and what I love – in my communication, online and offline.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ You see when I want…

“COME ON MILIND, I AM NOT GAUTAM BUDDHA!”, she said.⁣ “I cannot love everyone unconditionally. It is so difficult. In fact it is impossible to really be in that state.”⁣ ⁣ “Mein Gandhiji nahin hoon,” another one said.⁣ If someone does something wrong to me, I will react. If someone hates me, how can you…

“Milind Sir, I’ve been feeling so blissful and happy for the last 2 hours.”, she said. “I want this feeling to last forever. Is there a way?” “NO”, I replied. ➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖ You see happiness and sadness are two sides of the same coin. One can’t exist without the other. Like on Monday afternoon I met…

FOR THE LAST 21 YEARS, I have had to face this question, “Does your wife work?” I have always wondered how to answer that question. Actually the question itself bewilders me because I have never seen anybody’s wife who does not “not work”. Did I sleep through some announcement which said, “A million dollars grand…

Tuesday 7am. Young New York NRI client. He was frustrated that he isn’t learning much in his job. And it’s going to be a few more months of suffering before he can expect a change of project. And the lockdown and the riots are adding to the agony. I asked him, “How much is your…

In 2016 for almost a year I coached a student who was preparing for her IAS exams and dealing with all kinds of struggles in life. Her commitment and perseverance paid off eventually and today she is an Assistant Collector working day and night ON THE FIELD, risking her own life, fighting the battle against…

TODAY.. after her 7th session with me, a client who had signed up for 10 sessions, decided to STOP taking coaching from me. “Milind, in the last 6 sessions itself I got what I wanted. I got clarity on my thinking. On what the next steps on my career should be. I’m no longer thinking…

(Secrets about my first public workshop that I never revealed to anyone.) I had booked a banquet hall in Hotel Deccan Plaza, Chennai for 26th April 2009 full day by paying Rs 10000 advance. It was one of the last swipes on my already overloaded credit card. I was already sitting on Rs 25 Lacs…

Here are some SHOCKING THINGS I learnt about money and banks AFTER I became an adult: LESSON 1 Central banks cannot run out of money because they are the ones that create the money. And you cannot run out of something you create yourself. And that is why the value of money erodes over time….

Photography (and life) have taught me one thing. The beauty of something is not in a subject.. it’s in the lens through which you see the subject. If you want a beautiful world, you just need a change of lens. And strangely, for humans, how we LISTEN, how we INTERPRET things.. that’s the lens with…

LIFE COACHING is a very serious profession. Every day I deal with people who have productivity challenges, severe relationship problems, major self confidence issues etc etc. After 8 years of being in this profession, coaching day in and day out often drains me out. To put some life into my sessions I make it a…

THERE ARE 2 FUNDAMENTAL STEPS NEEDED TO GET WHATEVER YOU WANT IN LIFE: This one is straight from my coaching sessions. I was sitting at the lawns of my apartment complex sometime back watching the moon and it got me into the mood for some power writing! STEP 1: Best told through the story of…

WHAT YOU CAN SEE IN THE PIC: My friend Tushar happy after participating in his first FULL marathon in Mumbai. WHAT YOU CANNOT SEE IN THE PIC: 1) He completed the 42km Tata Mumbai Marathon in 6 hours and 22 minutes. (that’s a lot of running!). He told me many people give up after 30…

“DON’T BELIEVE ME. I AM NOT TELLING THE TRUTH.”, I told someone this morning. “Actually I never tell the truth. Simply because I don’t know what the truth is. And that’s why I don’t even claim to know the truth. All I have is a bunch of opinions. Opinions about you, opinions about my friends,…

As a couple Seema and me are OFF TRACK 90% of the time. The key is that we have a sense of destination. We know what the ‘track’ looks like. And we keep coming back to it time and time again. It’s like the flight of an airplane. Before the flight takes off, the pilots…

I REALLY DON’T CARE about what’s going to happen in my life in 2020. But I DO care how TODAY,  is going to turn out. When I hit the bed tonight, I’m going to ask myself: Did I use my day well? Was I kind to people who love me? (Or like Ellen DeGeneres says,…

THE SECRET TO HAPPINESS is having great relationships, says the world’s longest study on happiness. For over 80 years, Harvard Medical School has been studying the happiness of a group of people in the hope that the study would reveal clues to leading healthy and happy lives. The study revealed that CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS, more than…

We spent most of today in intense discussion. That discussion involved emotion, upset, hurt and regret. More importantly that discussion involved clarification of misunderstandings and misinterpretations. It involved authentic expression of our present met and unmet needs. Twelve hours after we started the fight/ argument/communication we wound up agreeing to disagree and we resolved to…

In the last 2 years or so I’ve been on a rampage of self-expression.. online and offline. Most of the four decades before that I’ve mostly been a very shy and timid person, so in that context this is a huge breakthrough. Here are 5 TIPS that I’ve put down to help anyone express themselves…

“I CAN EVEN CHARM QUEEN ELIZABETH IN JUST ONE SITTING”, he said, “… as long as I am SITTING DOWN!” I was puzzled. “Why, what happens when you stand up?”, I asked my client on the other end of the phone (who I had never seen in person). “Well, then they can see how short…

Just in case you didn’t know, I HAVE THREE WIVES. One you see on the top (the one I HAD). One you see in the bottom pic (my PRESENT one). And there’s one you’re yet to see (the one I discover every morning.) Sssshhh.. she’s yet to wake up! I LOVE all three of them….

All I had to do was fly to Delhi, then take an overnight train to Shimla (switch from broad gauge to narrow gauge in between), then drive from Shimla to a tiny village called Lhalung in Himachal located at an altitude of 4000 meters (imagine 6 Lonavlas of 624m altitude on top of each other)….

A lot of nice people came into my life. I learnt how to be like them. A lot of weird people came into my life. I learnt how to love them anyway. Short tempered people gave me practice on how to be calm. Angry people made me realize that I must be empathetic and understanding….

“THIS IS NOT A JAIL.. it’s a juvenile observation home”, I was told before I walked into it today to conduct a group coaching session for the inmates of Pune’s Juvenile Home at Yerawada which houses 40 odd under-trial/ convicted youngsters between 16 and 18 years of age. To be honest I was QUITE NERVOUS…

1) COMFORT ZONE: Life is not working but you feel too resigned to do anything about it. 2) FEAR ZONE: You WANT to do something different but you worry about what people will say if you fail. You justify to yourself why it is better to stay where you are. You keep yourself stuck because…

The biggest lesson I have learnt in my life is: “Authenticity is EVERYTHING.” If I want to feel powerful, I should be authentic. If I want to be successful, I should be authentic. If I want love, I should be authentic. I have learnt it the hard way that when I feel powerless, when I…

The Date: 7-7-7. Apollo Hospital, Chennai. My wife’s gynec comes out of the Operation Theatre and tells me, “I’ve got Good news and Bad news for you!” “Good news is, you’re now the father of a baby girl.” “Bad news is, you already had one Cancerian in the house, now you have ONE MORE! All the…

Whatever you are resisting – unwanted people, unwanted communication from people, unwanted habits, unwanted health conditions, unwanted career situation, unwanted financial situation.. STOP RESISTING IT. The more you resist it, the more it will persist in your life. You will keep getting more of it in your life. On the other hand, when you ACCEPT…

Many people think that it is very EASY to be a Life Coach. First of all it sounds cool and it sounds like you get paid good bucks to give gyan to people and fix what is wrong about them. Nothing could be further from the truth. It’s very tough to live the life of…

“You want any help?” My wife asked me a few minutes back as I was getting ready for the day. “No.” I replied. “You want a BIG hug?”, I asked her. “OF COURSE, YES”, she replied. And that’s so typical of how our day begins. And how it ends. And typical of the rest of…

Spent the morning cleaning and polishing a trophy my mom had got in 1985. It was for the MEGHDOOT AWARD – instituted by the Department of Posts for Honesty and Integrity in service. My mother was the first woman postal employee in India to get this award. In the early 60s she was one of…

“Milind, It’s a VERY DEPRESSING ENVIRONMENT here. It’s minus 14 degrees, everything’s covered with snow and there’s not a human being in sight on the roads.” This 28 year old Ivy League MBA student I’m coaching lives on the US East Coast and she was feeling really low when I started my weekly coaching call…

For the last 6 months I’ve been coaching a young businessman who goes scuba diving with sharks every year. He has no fear of sharks because he knows sharks don’t like to eat people (and that’s simply because they don’t like the way we taste!) Studies show they respond strongly to the smell of seals…

“Is the glass half empty or half full?” is the proverbial phrase to indicate that a particular situation could be a cause for optimism (half full) or pessimism (half empty). There’s a THIRD WAY you could look at it. You could look at the glass as “half empty AS AN OPPORTUNITY” as opposed to the…

A few months back thanks to my daughter’s insistence we got home a small fish called Fighter and put him in a small fish bowl. Last month I thought Fighter must be getting bored alone in his small bowl so I got him two friends (small fish called Rainbow fish). Then the bowl seemed too small…

During a brutal study at Harvard in the 1950s, Dr. Curt Richter placed rats in a pool of water to test how long they could tread water. On average they’d give up and sink after 15 minutes. But right before they gave up due to exhaustion, the researchers would pluck them out, dry them off,…

Just to clear my head and to remind myself how I am choosing to live my life, I’m going to write 10 life fundas and as soon as I finish I’m going to hit the POST button: 1) I am on this planet to learn lessons. Every person in my life is a teacher, especially…

As I was going through my files just now I stumbled upon this set of 9 affirmations my wife Seema had put together for me about a decade back when I was DOWN IN THE DUMPS and perhaps at my lowest phase in life. (Many of the affirmations are from various Louise Hay books she…

Just finished a coaching call with a young businesswoman. She asked me “How do I let go of worrying about what people will say if my newest restaurant fails? Is there an affirmation that will help me with this?” I’m a highly intuitive coach, so out came out of my mouth, “Screw what people will…

Do good to others, people will remember it. (Although in the real world people don’t always come back later and acknowledge the good we did for them.. but that doesn’t mean that they don’t remember it.)

Thanks to my profession I have the privilege of seeing what kind of AWESOMENESS human beings are capable of bringing into their lives. But the two amazing people who inspire me the most are my mom and my wife. Everytime I see them together, I become present to how these two ended 16 years of…

Here’s some life advice from the ancient Greeks: Instead of simply having one concept of love, the ancient Greeks believed there were SIX DIFFERENT TYPES OF LOVE, all equally important: EROS, the fiery, passionate love you feel toward a lover; PHILIA, the platonic love between friends and family; LUDUS, the playfulness found among new lovers…

I’ve been coaching this young lady who (like most of us) has been dealing with countless problems. Last week she went on a week-long trip to Ladakh and in this morning’s coaching call she told me, “Sir, after the trip all my problems have disappeared. I now realize that ALL I NEED is Oxygen and…

Why say this? Because you are not your strengths. And you are not your weaknesses. What you did and what you had or have doesn’t define you either. If you say you’re stuck, you are. If you say you’re just OK, you surely are. And if you say you’re finished, you most definitely are. You…

There was a point in time when I always used to envy some of my illustrious IIM Bangalore batchmates. 26 years after graduating, many of them are country heads, CEOs and Managing Directors of multi-million dollar companies in India and abroad. They jet set around the world, stay in 5-star hotels and some of them…

“Whoever has, will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken from him.” You have to admit that when you read the passage it appears unjust, as it seems to be saying that the rich will get richer and the poor will get…

So my daughter’s coach (an Australian lady who’s 77) told my daughter (who is 13).. “Tell your parents why you love them..” My daughter began.. “I love them because…” “No no.. tell THEM why you love them.. don’t tell ME.” ———————————— Lesson 1: LOVE is a function of communication. Most of us make the mistake…

One of the biggest side-effects of traditional educational systems is that they train your brain to categorize everything into right and wrong territory. Well the real world doesn’t work like that. Nothing is black and white… there are a zillion shades of grey in between. What makes perfect sense for someone else might look dumb…

If only you knew how beautiful you really are, you wouldn’t even think of competing with those next to you. Even your imperfections are part of your beauty. In fact your imperfections make you unique. Why would you even want to be like someone else? You may want to work on yourself and that’s ok….

..and today also you will say tomorrow. And tomorrow also you will say tomorrow. And before you realize it December will come and then you will say I’ll start on 1st Jan. If you don’t want to do something, tell yourself .. “I don’t want to do it.. and I’m willing to take responsibility for…

One of the single biggest problems of human beings is that we predict the future on the basis of the past. It’s the ultimate illusion! Life is NOT like an arithmetic progression! Things won’t happen in the future simply because they happened in the past. Whatever happens in our present and in our future is…

I have a framed version of this poster in my house.. I’ve had it for many years. Don’t miss the bottom of the poster, which says ‘Taking risks takes practice.’ I agree. I have taken SO MANY risks in my life, especially big ones, I’ve lost count. Obviously not all risks work out. With some…

JUST IN CASE this message is still undelivered to you: 1) You are good enough. In fact you are AWESOME! 2) Screw your weaknesses. Focus on your strengths and you’ll go a far far way in life. 3) People around you not just need you, they’re dependent on you, so what if they don’t express…

If you think you’re not doing well financially, look at this: A Govt driver in INDIA earning Rs 25000 per month is in the Top 5.55% of the WORLD’s population ranked by income! See other figures: – Engineer: Rs 50000 per month: Top 0.86% – School principal: Rs 75000 per month: Top 0.29% – Private…

Real power does not come from money. Or fame. Or popularity. You experience real power when you can say what you want to say and do what you want to do. Real power comes when you are unstoppable in the face of fear. And when you give up worrying about what people will think about…

One of my clients was on a vacation to Switzerland with his wife and while driving across the country they stumbled into a small town called Saanen. The Saanen airstrip, the railway station and the surroundings seemed way too familiar and it’s wasn’t long before he discovered that these were the locations at which many…

Today I complete ONE HUNDRED MONTHS of no salary. On this emotional day I thank all the people who helped me financially and emotionally to ride out all those months when I was struggling and when my income was either NIL or less than what I needed to pay my bills. These include my mom,…

They say.. DON’T GIVE UP! DON’T GIVE UP! I say “GIVE UP TODAY!” 1) Give up your “CHALTA HAI” attitude 2) Give up your right to be RIGHT 3) Give up your right to REACT 4) Give up your need to LOOK GOOD and impress others 5) Give up your deep need to COMPLAIN 6)…

In the pic.. you probably see a Before-After Rubik’s cube. What I see is the journey of a client I’ve been coaching for the last 5 months. This young client used to take 30 odd minutes to solve the cube a few months back. Now he does it in less than 25 SECONDS. He used to…

There is a story about a man phoning Dr. Schuller… The man said, “It’s over. I’m finished. All my money has gone. I’VE LOST EVERYTHING.” Dr. Schuller asked, “Can you still see?” The man replied, “Yes, I can still see.” Dr. Schuller asked, “Can you still walk?” The man replied, “Yes, I can still walk.”…

You only live once? False. You live everyday. You only die once. MAKE EACH DAY COUNT

I’ve been thinking all day today why I follow my heart much more than I use my head.. came up with two reasons: 1) I remembered what I had read it 2002.. that we have THREE brains. One in the head, one in the heart and one in the gut region. Neurological research has proven…

We all have a GABBAR SINGH in our life, who in reality is not as bad and menacing as he looks. It’s just that we’ve never seen the other side of him. The GABBAR we have in our life is perhaps playing just a role.. he is there to teach us “Jo dar gaya, samjho…

I had this interesting conversation with my one of my coachees.. She’s self-employed and wanted to increase her own client base and was asking me the secret to my successful coaching practice. Here’s what I told her.. Me: “Whether you are employed or self-employed, the secret is to GIVE more than what you get paid…

Watched Cars 3 yesterday – here’s the central message I got: “Don’t worry about winning or losing. Worry about not having that chance..” So true: Very often in life we just sit in the stands and judge the game. Which does neither us nor the scoreboard any good. You want to experience ALIVENESS? When you…

Super inspiring poster: “MAKE MISTAKES.. Penicillin was discovered by accident. Don’t be afraid to experiment.” No wonder a wise man once said.. “A mistake is simply another way of doing things.” I made tons of mistakes all my life and it’s never too late to make some more. I made a huge mistake last week and…

VOGUE MAGAZINE interviewed me recently to get tips to help people work from home efficiently. I listed down 17 tips – all of them coming from my own experience of working from home for 11 years now (since 1st March 2009). They published 8 of these tips in their article, but here’s the whole list:…

A TV anchor once asked Martina Navratilova, “How do you maintain your focus and manage to keep playing, even at the age of 43 ?”  Her suave response was, “The ball doesn’t know how old I am. Besides, for 90% of the match I don’t have to focus”. In a typical tennis match, the players spend…

Whatever you are resisting – unwanted people, unwanted communication from people, unwanted habits, unwanted health conditions, an unwanted career situation, an unwanted financial situation.. STOP RESISTING IT. The more you resist it, the more it will persist in your life. You will keep getting more of it in your life. On the other hand, when…

On 1st March 2019  I completed TEN YEARS of Self-Employment and freedom from the corporate world.  Here are TEN tips if you want to break free (and stay free) from the Golden Cage someday: 1) “Someday” will NEVER come on its own. “Someday” is created by you saying.. “That’s it. I’m done with this 9…

To quit or not to quit. That is not only the question, it is often the ultimate question! There are times when we feel enough is enough and we feel a huge urge to quit our jobs. And we don’t because we aren’t quite sure if that’s the right thing to do. Often we go…

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